Why do i keep falling, in spite of all the efforts I make to get ouf of porn ?
Is this a question you’ve asked yourself before? You make all these efforts to stop using porn but it doesn’t work? It’s important to first identify why you’re relapsing and then you can be savvy about reacting where it’s needed.
Do you know why you keep relapsing?
It’s because every time you say to yourself, “I won’t fall into pornography again”, you don’t replace it with another activity, it creates a hole in your schedule, and your body misses it.
It’s important to know that the body hates emptiness, it’s perpetually searching for pleasure, so if you don’t choose to fill this emptiness, your body will do it for you.
And for your body, it’s very simple; you were doing it already and it gave you pleasure, so why stop? Why deprive yourself of this pleasure? And so, it’ll tell you, “Look just once more, it’ll be the last time, this time, take it for yourself, then that’ll be it”.
You’ll find yourself so exposed to thoughts like this that you end up giving in. This is how you find yourself relapsing, time and again. An endless cycle…
What should you do in this case?
How can you strengthen your efforts to stop using porn?
You must fill the hole, for your body to be in balance, so your body doesn’t feel the recurring need or emptiness.
On the one hand there is: “stopping to visit pornography websites and exposing yourself to images of a pornographic nature” and on the other hand “replacing it with other activities to help you regenerate and to break the addiction”.
Concretely, the time you previously used for destroying yourself, you can now use to rebuild yourself, by reading the Bible for example, praying, playing sports, spending more time with your family, your friends, your colleagues, and concentrating on long-term and short-term projects, reforging for yourself a new mentality…
By doing what you’re meant to be doing, you’ll no longer have the time to do what you shouldn’t be.
For there to be a real and definitive change, you must be conscious of the fact you’re still vulnerable, you’ll always face the temptation to go back, so you have to adopt the right attitude, avoiding a maximum, any exposure to pictures or thoughts which could drive you towards pornography again, and most importantly you must point your thoughts, reflexions and your mind in general towards positive and regenerating activities.
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