Impossible ? No, difficult probably !
That’s why you clicked on this article. It depends on each person, their life path and their physical, moral and spiritual capacities. So there is no need to compare yourself to others, you are unique, and you don’t see other people when they are alone at home facing their urges.
The athlete model
As in many other areas, in order to handle your urges, you need to keep in mind the athlete’s step-by-step approach. If you want to control your urges all at once, you risk to fail and become discouraged, just as if you sign up for the Olympic Games even though you don’t do any sport.
It is easy to admit that for a physical practice, you must start with a regular training adapted to your physical condition, completed with a healthy diet, then you join a local club, and then you register and qualifie for departmental, regional, national, and finally international competitions… or not! Not everyone reaches the podium of the highest competition, in fact there are only three places per competition.
To handle your urges, it’s the same, it’s a path of progression, and you don’t know at the beginning, what level you will reach.
Use your urges rather than trying to hold them back
Fighting against urges can quickly become exhausting. Especially since today’s society, with its films, advertisements and clothing fashions, etc., over-stimulates our desires and our sexuality, and this is no small thing. We must be aware of this situation in order to manage it as well as possible, to anticipate it and also to relieve ourselves of some of sexual urges that run through us and seem to be out of control, which the world tries to exacerbate in us.
Accepting setbacks to continue to progress
Wanting to be perfect, is the risk of being proud, pretentious, or too scrupulous, and above all failing, and then being in a paralyzing guilt. This is why God asks for repentance and humility, not guilt. Our failures help us to remain humble. Jesus did not experience sin, but on the way to the cross, the trial being difficult, he fell three times, got up and kept going. We should try to follow his example.
A supernatural boost
Christians offer solutions such as prayer and the sacraments as confession to help us evolve and remain in control of our instincts and urges, unlike animals who remain submissive because they have no free will or soul. To learn more, start a dialogue with one of our volunteers using the live chat. We are waiting for you!